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Body Language

   Posted by: Anthony St. Augustine

body-languageUnderstanding body language can be a very good thing to add to your arsenal when it comes to social interaction and meeting women. You can know what a person thinks and feels by observing their subconscious body language. This should give you some insight when it comes to reading body language. You can use this to gain social advantages. Try observing the body language of people around you. Have fun with this.

Pay attention to how close someone stand to you. The closer they are, the more comfortable they are with you. The further they are, the less comfortable they are with you.

Pay attention to how their head is positioned.

If their head is over-tilted, this is a sign of sympathy. This person is trying to convince you of their honesty.

A lowered head usually indicates that the person is trying to hide something. If the person lowers their head after a compliment, this usually indicates that person to be timid or shy and is keeping distance or thinking to themselves. in some cultures however, this can be a sign of respect.

If the head is cocked, it means that the person is confused or is challenging you. Pay attention to their eyes, eyebrows, and mouth gestures.

If someone is lying to you, they will tend to look at you and away a lot.

If someone looks away while supposedly listening to your conversation, they are thinking about something else. In some culture however, looking into someones eyes is a sign of disrespect.

If the person is mirroring you, this is normally a sign of interest. This is of course if they are not making fun of you.

Crossed arm indicates that someone is trying to close themselves of from social influences. Some people cross their arms out of habit indicating that they are reserved or are uncomfortable about their bodies.

When a person puts their arm behind their neck, this is a signal that they are interested in what is being discussed. They are probably waiting to state their opinion on the topic.

Where are their hands? If they put their hands in their pockets they are more relaxed and more likely to be attracted to you. This can also be a nervous gesture.

When someone brushes their hair back with their fingers, they thoughts about something are conflicting with yours. Watch to see if they raise their eyebrows.

When someone is wearing glass and they are constantly pushing their glasses back, this is a sign of disagreement. But be aware if their glasses are just loose.

If someone is biting their lip, they are anticipating something or holding back.

When someone is fiddling with their hair this is normally an indicator of self-consciousness or they feel uncomfortable.

When someone squints and lowers their eyebrows, they are attempting to understand a situation. This is normally a sign that they are skeptical.

If they are tapping their feet, they are excited, scared, nervous, or intimidated.

If you observe someone shifting their weight, this is usually a sign of boredom. They may also be distracted or uncomfortable.

If the pupils are dilated, this indicates interest. Alcohol can also dilate the pupils, so keep that in mind.

If you notice someone looking to the side, this normally indicates guilt. Be aware about your topic. This can be an indicator of something they may have done wrong.

If someone keeps eye contact with you, this is a strong indicator of someone who is very confident.

If someone laughs excessively, it can be a sign of dishonesty or nervousness. They may just be a very happy person, so use your best judgment.

If you want to really get into detail about body language, Check this out.

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When I hear the word skills, Napolean Dynamite comes to mind. That movie forever branded that word in my head. Social skills are skills like any other skill. You have to work on it. Nobody ever pickup a guitar and just started playing. They may have gotten lucky and played a cord or two.

A skill like playing the guitar, is more manual and concrete. We understanding that it takes a lot of time and effort. When it comes to social skills there is not that “one thing” that you do to get better. There are several components involved.

Get in the mood

Your mood can have a huge influence on your social life. You become more attractive if your in a positive mood than if your in a negative one. Have you ever been around a person that you could just tell is in a negative mood? You can feel that vibe radiating off them. Well people can sense that vibe off you as well.

If your going to improve in this aspect of your life I suggest you change your mood. I want you to think of yourself as an explorer. Your about to discover a new you, your new self; your best self. But, just having the right attitude is not going to magically change you into being socially elite. You also have to do the right things. It  is however the first step. Think of it as laying the foundation.

Application

I love to learn new things. Learning new things can be fun and exciting, but if you don’t apply what you learn, it all for nothing. Let’s say you learn all this stuff about “How to be more social” and you never apply it; well you’re never going to get better. There was research that was done on highly successful people and the one common denominator that they had was whenever they learned something new they applied it immediately. I ask that you do the same.

Observe

Your about to go voyeur here. Watch people who are good with people. Make mental note on what it is you like that they do. Write it down when you get a chance. This can be your “swipe file”.  You may not particularly care for the person entirely, but just take the parts that you do like and use them.

Practice

This is the meat of everything. Try out all aspects of interacting with people.  You’re going to make inevitable mistakes, but you will get the hang of things. With practice, situations that feel awkward will turn into ones you’ve come across dozens of times, and which you know how to handle. Some things will feel forced and at first, but they will become second nature, and almost feel like you’ve always had them. You’ll start to gain a confidence that comes from realizing that you’ve been around people successfully before and you can do it again.

Building social skills can be discouraging at times. You may not feel like your progressing as fast as you’d like, but you’ll get there. It took some time to learn how to ride a bike, but eventually you did.

If you really want to quickly improve your social skill. You need to check out Carlos Xumas stuff. This guy is amazing and you can get past the learning curve very rapidly. You can check him out by clicking here.

You’ll get there just practice.

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